Sunday, July 3, 2022

Angus and Lisa

 Through the fall of 2019 and the summer of 2020, I went on a series of dates with men I shouldn't have been giving time to. I knew they were crummy and didn't love Jesus, and I was sinful and wanted attention. I finally had enough of it in September and repented. I felt close to God again, and made up my mind that my Hinge dating profile would convey me as a Jesus freak in order to weed out anyone who didn't love Jesus too. 

One day after work I came upon a profile on Hinge. There was nothing flashy or attention-getting about him, and we did have some similar interests. With my new resolve to only interact with guys who CLEARLY love Jesus, I clicked "like" only because his profile said he loved Jesus. 

That was a Thursday. After a quick conversation about our favorite bible verses, we planned a hike for Saturday, September 19th, 2020. The conversation on the hike went so well, as did subsequent dates and time spent together, that we got engaged at Tower Fall in Yellowstone National Park on February 6th, 2021, and married on May 8th, 2021! I am so glad I did not settle for a crummy guy; before meeting Angus, I thought men (my age) who loved Jesus were literally nonexistent. I didn't believe in "soul-mates" before, but now I know God can have a mate perfect for us. I treasure God's provision of Angus and our subsequent other blessings, such as our miracle housing, miracle dream job, financial blessings, and more (Cudjoe!😸). 

Our next adventure is taking us to Orange County, California, where Angus got his dream job as a roboticist, and this takes the place of graduate school. We are nervous, but excited to see God's fingerprints through this big transition. 

To be continued!



The Post-Roe Man

 WhOa! Hey there! I'm back, and it has been a WHILE! I'll get to a life update post, but first here is a rant I had to get out of my system. :D 

Post Roe, many abortion-supporting women are upset that so few men have voiced concern or taken action in response to the SCOTUS decision. Some men are also upset that they have been alone in the response. I have a theory why so few men are willing to get involved: Men have the innate pull to protect and provide for women and children. If a man is doing neither of these things, he feels like something is missing, whether he knows what it is or not. Healthy masculine men, who haven't been tainted by feminism, press into this desire and seek to marry and raise a family. Men with toxic masculinity, that is, masculinity poisoned by selfishness and beaten down by feminism, have difficulty seeing the perversity of abortion, that is, killing offspring. They are told it is empathetic to the woman; the woman who would be heavily burdened by a child. The woman or child who might have complications if the abortion option was off the table. What men, and women, need to jointly understand is that the "burden" of a child is meant to be carried by a mother and father- a family. And this turns out to be a blessing! Yes, raising a child (or an additional child) will be difficult for any number of reasons. Picking between difficulty and murder (sin) should be an obvious choice for anyone with an inkling of morality. But morality comes from God, found in the bible, and the influence of real Christians on culture seems to be waning in America. 

Another reason men may be hesitant to outwardly support abortion is that they view it as a female issue- the ball is never in their court. However, if more men (throughout all earth's history) strived for healthy masculinity (protecting and providing for their wife and children) fewer women would have been pressured to abort. But sin has corrupted masculinity, and toxic femininity has bashed it even further. Sin has also corrupted the term patriarchy. Male leadership is a good thing, and was set up by God as a good thing, but as men and women each sinfully desire power and control, and in light of the late surge of feminism, patriarchy now has a bad connotation. There is a misconception that men and women are not equal. Equal in usefulness, ability, sinfulness, etc.; yet equally loved by God, in Whose image they are made. God established man as the head or leader, providing and protecting, and woman as the helper, giving life and nurturing. These two sides of the coin of marriage and family work beautifully in tandem, for they are compliments. Disorder and destruction abound when each misuses power or is selfish, resulting in wrong priorities, divorce, abortion, and broken homes. 

What may sicken me the most is when a married couple aborts their child. It is unspeakable. Absolute perversity of manhood and womanhood. 

Thank God that He sent His son Jesus to save us from our iniquity! He is faithful to save all who call on Him.

For God so loved the world, that He gave His only Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through Him. John 3:16-17

For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast. Ephesians 2:8-9

Know therefore that the LORD your God is God; He is the faithful God, keeping His covenant of love to a thousand generations of those who love Him and keep His commandments. Deuteronomy 7:9